Whatever happens to you is perfectly the right thing to have happened
Sometimes life forces us to go through a destructive process in order to bring out new which is for the better for all concerned. Life is never straight. They say our higher soul does not care whether we are comfortable, it only cares that we evolve.
Yet at every juncture there is help for us in the form of a friend or a wise person.
I feel that nothing in coincidental, however the person has multiple choices at every moment of his life so that he can learn through trial and error “who I am”.
Whatever you do with your life is your own choice. If you do not like your choice, you still can make a better choice, that’s how people learn and evolve. The process is slow… I believe for many incarnations people learn through making choices and experiencing the consequences. Later on, with more wisdom, we start learning through observation…